Nice of you to say this on Anon, I assume you’re the person who unfollowed me (I’d recommend not doing that next time, makes it very easy for someone to track you, I say this for your safety. Maybe wait a bit. Or don’t send anon hate. That might be a good idea.).
I said I wanted to hear a reason why. I left it up for people to defend themselves.
And if saying “fuck you” was supposed to help the argument, it surely didn’t.
If you honestly expect me to apologize for doubting Asexuality (and NOT WANTING TO MIND YOU) because people keep claiming to be asexual while they partake in porn, and fetishes, and want sex, I can’t.
And most arguments I’ve heard are “asexuals can have a sex drive, but they don’t point at look at someone and say they want to have sex with them”. In other words they need to like their personality and feel emotionally attached, every sexuality works that way. And it’s a very immature, simple way of looking at sexualities.
Which range in strength. Not every hetero/bi/homo/pansexual has a huge sex drive, or is sexually attracted to people just looking at them. That ranges and it’s normal.
I’m not saying Asexuals don’t exist, and don’t face discrimination, I just don’t trust that everybody who says they’re asexual really is, or how common or real it is.
And I’m sorry, I can’t see someone as Asexual if they partake in porn, which just goes entirely against that. I can’t see that any other way.
Look, I want to support Asexuals. Honestly give me a reason to. I really and truly do.
But right now, I’m very torn on the issue and I think a lot of it comes from a lot of them don’t know how biology or sexuality works. So they don’t understand and are mostly just hetero/bi/homo/pansexuals who don’t understand that not every person who is those sexualities is that sexually driven or looks at a random stranger and says they want to have sex with that without knowing them. (A lot of people do this, it’s normal for sexualities of all kinds. Not all but many do.)
It’s not helped that currently someone said they’re asexual who reblogs porn and fetishizes people often (which would be fine, but doesn’t make them asexual) currently possibly claimed they’re Asexual. And most Asexuals I knew basically just turned out to be heterosexuals. (Some just went back to being heterosexual (after enjoying and taking part in porn and because they were always sexually attracted to people and had sex drives)), and others who claimed to be asexual now draw porn. A lot of it. (And I know they were NEVER ace because even when they complained they were asexual they mentioned watching a complete stranger in their class get on his desk a certain way and how they wanted to have sex with him.)
Doubting is not the same as saying something isn’t.
Doubting Asexuality doesn’t mean I don’t believe in it, it means I’m being wavered that way, and I need someone to convince me otherwise.
I’m not denying Asexuality, frankly, I entirely believe it can be a thing biologically. I’m merely doubting how often it’s really truly asexuality, or just someone who doesn’t understand how sexualities work.
I should clarify, though, as it was, admittedly, poorly worded.
“I’m not even sure I believe in asexuality anymore.
Like at all.”
I meant I’m doubting it, I haven’t decided, but I do believe Asexuality exists (because biologically it makes sense), I just don’t it’s as I thought it was and I’m apprehensive to believe most people who claim they have it have it, (because for many people it was a phase), and I find that unfortunate. And I want a reminder why that’s not the case, but right now it’s not working.
"I certainly don’t have much respect for a lot of people in the groups (like at all, none I know personally)".
I was speaking specifically Asexuals and “Asexuals” (as they’ve outed themselves as Heterosexual) that I knew. Like specifically, people I know on a personal basis (not all Asexuals).
"I feel sad about this, because I used to defend asexuals to the ends of the Earth, and now I feel like that was wrong or a waste, or maybe I’m hoping that I’m not actually hurting people who don’t deserve it. “
This line meant Asexuals, for the record. I was hoping I wasn’t hurting Asexuals who don’t deserve it. Which I don’t intend to do, and if I’m wrong I’d be happy to hear it.
But you know, for the record, this doesn’t help. Instead of create a reasonable point or debate, you insult me, anonymously (which doesn’t hurt my feelings, for the record, just makes you seem cowardly). And it certainly doesn’t make me think I lost someone valuable as a follower if this is your behavior. (And I certainly hope you don’t treat others this way.)
I truly hope someone does come around to prove me wrong, but I must ask you to not take this approach, as I feel like it will only make matters worse, not help or convince anyone. It’s also a very immature response.